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Resentment in Relationships Do you ever feel like you’re carrying the entire weight of your relationship? Do you ever have thoughts that you would be better off without your partner? That [...]

Social Impact of ADHD ADHD affects 3-4% of the adult population.1 One of the main challenges in ADHD is impulse control – so stopping to think and reflect before reacting out of anger is [...]

Guilt and Shame are Not the Same Many men know the feeling, like that knot in your stomach or the persistent voice in your head telling you something’s not right. Maybe it’s a nagging [...]

The Intertwined Realities of Inattentive ADHD and Anxiety Do you struggle to focus or pay attention in conversations? Do you often drift away into your head and get caught up in various different [...]

Before we can release ourselves from the grasp of toxic shame we need to be able to silence our inner critic as this is what is whispering to our toxic shame and making it grow.   Many [...]

What are Emotions? Have you seen Inside Out 2? This movie was recently released and it, as well as its predecessor, sparked a lot of curiosity around the topic of emotions. One significant topic [...]

In a world that often praises extroverted traits, introversion is sometimes misunderstood or even stigmatized. As an introvert, you may find comfort in solitude and prefer quieter, more [...]

Have you ever heard of the term, people pleaser? If so, you are not alone. Many others use a strategy such as pleasing others, putting others before themselves, and constantly focusing on how to [...]

As I discussed in the two previous blog posts about the different types of shame and how to recognize them, this post is about how to heal toxic shame once you realize you are struggling with [...]

First Steps In the previous blog post, I described the differences between healthy and toxic/unhealthy shame. In this post I will use the terms toxic and unhealthy interchangeably in reference to [...]

Shame is a complex emotion that is often associated with negative experiences, such as guilt, embarrassment, and humiliation. However, not all forms of shame are created equal. Some forms of [...]

  As an introverted dad, it’s important to prioritize self-care, time alone, and find ways to manage stress that work for you. Being an introverted dad myself, I have found it [...]

How To Overcome Procrastination: Normalize Procrastination –  It Happens to Everyone Reframe How You Think about Goals Learn a More Effective Strategy to Accomplish any Problem Begin [...]

What is Introversion? Do you consider yourself introverted? If you’re unsure if you are an introvert, feel free to check out this blog post – it discusses some of the main criteria that is [...]

  Understanding the Window of Tolerance Have you ever heard of the Window of Tolerance? It’s key to understand when learning about stress management. Originally developed by Dr. Dan [...]

Have you shared details of your life with someone in order to practice being more open and vulnerable? Perhaps you decided to share something you have been struggling with and thought it would be [...]

The First Step is the Hardest So you’ve been told by your partner, family, and/or friends that you should look into counselling to get some support for yourself. Or maybe you have been [...]

Welcome to the Gregorian New Year, Year 2022! The last few years have been difficult for everyone on our planet. The global pandemic, no matter what your perspective on the matter is, has caused [...]

  Do you ever feel like you can’t handle as much commotion, change, or stimulation as other people? Perhaps your friends relish the idea of a 7am to 10pm hangout, full of various activities [...]

Personal Discovery of Introversion There are certain moments in our lives when an idea from outside of ourselves is presented to us, and it just clicks with our internal sense of self. Some may [...]

Before diving into other posts that start to specify various mental health related phenomena, tips, and strategies related to introvert-specific issues, let’s define what an introvert is. [...]

Welcome! This is the First Post of the Iron Tree Counselling Blog. My name is Cam and I am a Master’s Level trained counsellor (a.k.a. Psychotherapist) in British Columbia, Canada. I am not just [...]